Do I LOOK like a "guy"? Stop calling me that!

If one more restaurant server refers to me and my husband as "you guys," I'm going to lose it a la the classic film, Five Easy Pieces. We constantly hear, "Are you guys ready to order?" "Would you guys like some more coffee?" "Do you guys want the check now?" AAAAARRRRRGGGGGHHHH. I'm a very feminine female, and am quite certain I look nothing whatsoever even remotely like a "guy." What's wrong with a server saying, "you folks" or "you two" or "you both" or any number of other substitutes? Come on, restaurant managers, grow some vertebrae in those rubber spines and MANAGE your staff -- teach them some civility and common courtesy, some generally accepted phrases used by cultured mankind, such as how to say "YOU'RE WELCOME," when a customer says "thank you." The response we get in restaurants in Sarasota these days? "No problem." "Uh huh." "Yeah, okay." "Sure." What?!!??? Vocabulary, people... Are the teachers teaching it any longer? And I shouldn't even GO THERE about "manners" but I will: I'm not even 40 yet, and I remember what my parents taught me about the basics: Say "Pardon me," when you bump into or walk in front of someone; "Excuse me" if you have to interrupt; "Please pass the --" at the dinner table; "Thank you" for each and every courtesy or kindess shown to you or for help given in any way; get up and give your seat in a crowded waiting room or on public transportation to an elderly person and stand; hold the door open for people with physical challenges of any age or gender; refer to adults older than you as Mr., Mrs. or Ms. if they're not your own personal friends (and especially if they're your friends' parents!), etc. The list goes on and on, but it seems to have blown away on the breeze of crude, rude, low class or just plain stupid. PS to servers: better manners and being polite equals better tips too!